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Well said. Sometimes we don't know we have the choice especially for people like us who have had CPTSD for so long.

Thank you 🙏🏽

The "mindset shift" thing making it about self worth is repulsive to me, it is not that I want to feel like I'm more worthy than I currently feel, it's that I want it to have not been so unjust and psychopathic how humanity has been so that I could have a history of positive human connection and open vulnerable emotional fulfillment with safety during my childhood teens 20s, for personality and life experience fulfillment, and especially for bully psychopaths to not be rewarded and normalized for their self empowerment and go-getterness.

I've been healing and have been doing better and better and stringing together days weeks and even months of moving forward .... until today when felt low out of the blue - I don't think I was triggered but perhaps I was ... is it normal to have profound resistance just pop up out of seemingly nowhere? resistance is present in my life for sure - but I felt like I didn't want to move today ... like that old freeze response of isolation. frustrating .

Please don’t force yourself to like touch such as massage.

You are very very wrong there is no “getting better” there is being medicated or drugged but no getting better. For me the answer will inevitably be my death.

we can't know until and unless we know..... for me, being neglected with healthcare during suffocating dying situation at home during the plandemic.....and that lit the match to the decades of c-ptsd I was surviving through with joy but periods of really bad flare ups. This was so helpful. I've been in therapy for a while now but lost a lot of friends in the process. They weren't perfect, but I dod cause pain because I felt like no one understood despite how much I cried, talked, explained.... real hard

Im a physician, psychologist and neuroscientist. Med combinations have helped at times, however often its just hell no nightmares but I just dont sleep at night always at noon. I have tried everything in research, substances, therapy, natural and usual medicine. No golden bullet. I hate it my life is not normal. I really suffer I have wept because of not being able to sleep. Sometimes I just smoke weed till I pass out.

Thanks for explaining...

I just love your explanations. God bless x

Hi Tanja. Thank you for this video. It's a very interesting topic and you explain the sensations really well for me. I remember you using the train analogy before, and it was one that resonated for me. I know the negative feelings around "making it happen" - the pressure on myself and the hyperfocus of those moments. I really want to be able to be a train spotter rather than a passenger! It's a work in progress for me though. I think that the idea of "making it happen" is stressful for me and it brings up my "I'm not good enough" thoughts. I am slowly (with age and insight) trying very hard to move away from this, but it is a sticky one for me and I keep getting drawn back to it in lots of areas of my life. As someone in their early 60s who is unable to retire for financial reasons, this pressure of "making it happen" hangs around me. I want to be free of work and to concentrate on the more relaxing aspects of life for the time I have left. So this is a real dilemma for me and I want you get the balance right. Sorry, I think I may have gone off at a tangent!

This is detachment. It has taken me years to achieve this state. I am at peace with myself. If I were sanctimonious, I would say I would say: I am waiting on God to move. So instead I will sit. Smiling inside. Content.

I was diagnosed a month ago as having complex post traumatic stress disorder after 18 years of being told "its just depression". I also recently got disgnosed with bulimia. Ive had a complete lack of motivation for the last few years, i gave up the majority of my hobbies because i have no interest anymore and im pretty much just waiting for death at this point.

Repent and turn to Jesus. First things first. He said “I am the WAY, the TRUTH, and the LIFE. He knows you. He created you and He suffered and died. Notice the means of demonstrating HIS LOVE for you. You, despite what others have done to you, have greatly and gravely sinned against HIM. The punishment for that is HELL. But GOD , said if you will acknowledge your sin and turn from that to CHRIST you will be forgiven and live with HIM forever. Once you are no longer an enemy of GOD but now a child of GOD- the new birth- you will begin to live a life filled with peace joy, hope and compassionate understanding and truth which will make you FREE. I had many childhood traumas. When Christ rescued me from the dead at 32 years, He began a good work in me. Many seasons of healing and many continual moments of confession and repentance have only served to endear my new heart to HIM. I am not perfect. But, He is and His great love for me continues to mature me and soften my heart toward others, especially those who have hurt me and equally those who I am unfortunately still capable of hurting except I keep my eyes on HIM. I will pray for you.

Sorry for your suffering and trauma.What have or are you engaged with now in your therapy on your journey to peace and contentment . Have you embraced the necessity to forgive those who hurt you? You will be free from the anger against them. This will open up the doors to new ideas and pathways in the present moment and going forward as you integrate these memories with yourself and the way you perceive life from now on.

Hello Tanja! I can relate so much with what you explain in this short video and I think it is key to say the word neutral because when I activate in fight flight mode the mind just starts to panick and to message me it’s wrong to be here but it is making space to feel the fear ir the sensation you just are feeling. Thank you for making the video you make!

What about when it's months at a time? What about when you get evicted because you can't get yourself to work? Why are there no videos about that?

Good morning Tanja. Your explanations are so beautiful and so accurate for me.

Thank you

Thank you for this reminder. Much needed. 🥰

"Sensations I don't know what to do with" is so true, and that is an area I struggle with. They catch me unawares and make me panic in the moment, and then ruminate through the rest of the day. I love the idea of us being the "sky" or the "canvas" - beautiful imagery! - I can work with this. I think that when these feelings come up, I jump to analysis and I need to create a space big enough to stop and just observe and move on. Thank you, Tanja. I have changed my username to reflect where I am at in all of this. Big thanks for your regular insights and your sanity and caring in a crazy world. Kay 🌼🦋

Hi Tanja, so useful to hear you say this. I think it is about space. Having the space in your mind to allow thoughts and feelings to be present, come and go, without them instantly entangling themselves with our history. Without space, they get reacted upon instantly and the whirring starts and intensifies. I think this is what you are saying, maybe not, but that's how I'm relating to it. It can bring about peace and allow for gratitude and joy to enter. Please keep doing what you do, it's so valuable. Lots of love

I thought about this for a long time. I’m 40 now and when I was around 18 was when kundalini rising became an interest to me. It has been a question through the years of what is what. Spiritual awakening vs crisis ❤

What a fascinating topic to address, Tanja. Thank you

Yes, I resonate so much with this🫶

Thank you so much!! This is just what I needed today!

Thank you for sharing. This really resonates.

I'm afraid to take meds, what should i do ?

I lost my whole day today, time just went poof. I should have gone to the gym as well.

Metaphor : When you're in a body that is not well maintained then you think that you are in a position to be criticized that might make you feel unsafe in your body

Hi Tanja. Thank you for posting this. I've watched it a couple of times now. I first watched it because I am always just so eager when your name pops up, and then I have gone back just now to drink in what you are saying properly. I know exactly what you mean, and I still suffer from this happening. I get a palpable tightness in my chest, and my inner child, whom I am trying hard to connect with and protect, could literally have a tantrum and spit venom in the moment. I need more and more to settle in myself and, as you say, look inward calmly to identify that hellish critical voice and be more curious about when these things happen 🌼

Perfect timing, thank you!!

I have always had trouble trusting people. Trying to work on my childhood trauma and conditioning but feel so overwhelmed.

Reading 1 sentence then going back to memories. Crying. Then reading 2nd sentence. I am preparing for state competitive exam💔

Looks lovely. Enjoy the sun and all that nature has in store for your walk!

I have also sought after the solution externally in every way imaginable.I could not accept that my pain was the teacher and fear, the source of courage.

Also - and completely off topic! What is the book on your shelf with the rhino on the back cover. Just curious! 😊

Hi Tanja. This resonated with me. Thank you. I work with people in trauma and have done many courses on it. But you're right - although it helps me in my job - the benefit I have been looking for has been for me. Sitting in silence is something I am beginning to dip my toe into, but it is scary being alone in those moments and being truly honest and naked in the truths of my mind. But carrying on this way will help? 🌼